How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

 People-Pleasing Awareness and Assertiveness Worksheet

This worksheet is designed to help you recognize people-pleasing behaviors and develop strategies for assertiveness and self-care.

People-pleasing often stems from a desire to be liked, accepted, or avoid conflict. This behavior can be linked to low self-esteem, fear of rejection, or childhood experiences where love and approval were conditional. While it’s natural to want to make others happy, chronic people-pleasing can lead to burnout, resentment, and neglect of your own needs. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward healthier relationships and a more balanced life.

How to Stop People Pleasing Behavior

Self-Awareness

Reflect on recent situations where you prioritized others' needs over your own. Write a brief description of each situation and how it made you feel.

Identifying Beliefs

Consider any underlying beliefs or thoughts that contribute to your people-pleasing tendencies. Write down any recurring thoughts or fears that come to mind.

Challenging Beliefs

For each belief, challenge it by considering alternative perspectives. Write down a more balanced or empowering way to think about each belief.

Setting Boundaries

Identify specific areas of your life where you struggle to set boundaries. Write down one boundary you would like to establish in each area (e.g., work, family, friendships).

Practice Saying No

List three scenarios where you often feel compelled to say yes when you want to say no. Practice saying no in each scenario, either aloud or in writing.

Self-Care Plan

Brainstorm a list of self-care activities that nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Choose at least three activities to incorporate into your daily or weekly routine.

Support Network

Identify individuals in your life who support your growth and well-being. Write down the names of at least three supportive friends, family members, or mentors.

Reflection Questions

• What patterns or themes do you notice in your people-pleasing behaviors? 🤔
• How do your beliefs about yourself and others influence your tendency to people-please? 🌐
• What challenges do you anticipate as you work on setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care? 🚀
• How can your support network assist you in this process? 🤗